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Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep affinity, friendship, love, strong intimacy, sexuality, or compatibility.
A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul - thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join.
However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations; they are sometimes used simply as an expression of strong emotional feeling for someone.
Definitions
Classical - Greek mythology - Originally humans were combined of 4 arms, 4 legs, and a single head made of 2 faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spending their lives searching for the other half to complete them. This theory was first explained in Plato's Symposium.
Spiritual and religious - concepts of reincarnation and karma. Soulmates have spent many previous lifetimes together.
Companion soulmate - People with whom one has made a connection.
Twin soulmates - Very close friends with whom one has strong bonds.
Twin flame soulmate - A popular romantic belief that there is only one true soulmate.
Scientific Soulmate - (If) a relationship can be quantified, and scored according to an internal happiness scale. A scientific soulmate is the person with whom you are the absolute happiest. You would therefore be less happy with any other person in existence.
Balance Partners and Messengers Balance Partners are the people you meet along the way who help you create balance in your life.*
Concepts
New Age concept of Soulmate
There is a prevalent concept in some segments of the New Age movement that some "souls" are literally made and/or fated to be the mates of each other, or to play certain other important roles in each others' lives. These souls are thought to have created something in a past life and they have chosen this lifetime to help each other "heal." Following this concept, one can have many soul mates. For example: One could see another person they have never met in this lifetime and instantly hate or love them because of previous interaction(s) with the other in one or more previous lifetimes. The most popular use of this concept is in applying it to those who were loved intimately in other lifetimes which were then found in this one.
Also, being conscious of the "soul mate connection" is not necessary, according to this idea.
Soulmate Emotional Destruction Theory
Ultimately the consequence of this notion is the unfortunate reality that soulmates often possess the ability to inflict serious emotional injury unto their twin flame, greater than any other being could. This often results in the separation of idealized love, due to the severe emotional impact. Many soulmates are destined for an eternal search, not for lack of meeting, but rather lack of acceptance. The encounter is often analogous to the collision of matter and anti matter, a violent explosive will occur, but if held through to completion only pure energy, and thus harmony, will result. Unfortunately few encounters are held through to completion.
Films with soulmate themes
- Made in Heaven (1987)
Two souls (Timothy Hutton and Kelly McGillis) marry in Heaven but are soon separated when one is born on Earth. The other follows and has to reunite with the other before time runs out or endure eternal soul-searching.
- Hedwig and the Angry Inch (1998)
- What Dreams May Come (1998)
Chris Nielson (Robin Williams) meets his true soulmate Annie (Annabella Sciorra). He dies in an accident and goes to heaven and she later commits suicide. Can he find his soulmate in hell and save her? Alternate ending in DVD also deals with soulmate searching.
- Just Like Heaven (2006)
In this movie a man and a woman were set for a date, but before the date the woman was involved in a car crash that caused her to go into a coma. Eventually the man moves into her apartment not knowing whose apartment it is. The woman appears before him numerous times, to find that it is her soul or spirit, and he is the only one that can see her. Eventually they realise that they were supposed to meet on that blind date. Thus realising what was supposed to happen, he kisses her real body in the hospital and she awakens to have no memory of him and his help. When they eventually touch hands all her memories come rushing back and they realise they were supposed to meet because of fate or destiny.
The 2003 Made For PAX Network Cable Movie "Mermaids" (not to be confused the Cher movie of the same name)
The character June portrayed by Sarah Laine a mermaid is in love with a Harbor Patrol officer named Randy who happens to secretly be her Soul Mate. Her two other sisters comicly complicate matters throughout the movie.
- Somewhere In Time (1980)
Memorable quotes
- "Occupational hazard of soul mates... one's no good without the other."
References
- Soulmates from Solve Dating / SocialGrid free on-line dating service
- Science of Soulmates Shows scientific evidence for soulmates.
See also
External links
- The Other Rules for Seeking Your Soul (and Its Mate) by Martha Beck on Oprah.com 3 steps: Know thyself, Value thyself, Engage thyself.
- Soul Mates: A Primer - answers to some soul-searching questions by religious leaders, metaphysicians and academics, from Oprah.com
- 29 Dimensions of Compatibility that help predict great relationships, from eHarmony.com
- * Explanation of True Love and Love of Soulgroups and Soulmates from Sefer Shinuyim - The Ancient Jewish Book of Changes, from SeferShinuyim.com
- * The Traditional Prayers to say and candles to light when praying to find ones Soulmate from Jewish Book of Corrections Sefer Tikunim
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